Hello to all dear visitors to my child’s world, in order to raise our children well and make it easier for us to deal with them, we must be smart and wise and be good at differentiating between nervousness and control and firmness, as the difference is vast and each leads to a different result from the other. How can you be fair and be a caring and firm mother without being nervous?? This is what we will discuss in this article, so stay tuned until the end.

What is the difference between nervousness, anger, controlling a child, and assertiveness??

But you should know, Madam, that this concept is completely wrong. A mother who fulfills all her child’s requests, always pampers him, does not set rules, and does not possess firmness is raising a very, very weak child psychologically.

Why ?

Because when a child grows up and faces life, people, and the labor market, he will not find someone who will pamper him, please him, and fulfill all his desires. He will be someone looking for someone who meets his needs without working or getting tired in his life. In life, it is possible and easy for him to follow bad friends because it is an easy path. He is tempting without thinking about the consequences or the endings.

How should the mother behave then?

You are the mother who must be pampered and pampered, yes, but at the same time you must be firm and without being nervous, as the difference is big and vast between being assertive and being nervous.
Firmness and rules are very, very important things in education, and the child, in the presence of firmness, is actually a psychologically healthy child.

Strength lies in being firm and at the same time tender and without nervousness:  

How do you remain calm about your opinion?

For example, if your child wants chocolate, and you know that he has just eaten a piece of chocolate and you refused, his reaction was to ask persistently while crying. Tell him that you love him and are afraid for him and that currently sugars will not help you. He will continue to cry and try in various ways to provoke.

What you need at this particular time is to be calm and maintain your stance. Because if you back down and every time you become weak and agree once, he will take advantage of the situation despite his young age and put pressure on you every time and insist until he gets what he wants.

If the mother concedes and agrees to something after she said no to it. Then the child develops a desperate resistance muscle. Today it means crying and stressing for five minutes until you change your mind. Tomorrow, he will cry and provoke you for 10 minutes until you change your mind. And so on.
The ideal solution here is to remain calm in your position and accept that the child must weigh and press, and his resistance muscle is the one that you can strengthen when you give up your opinion for the sake of pressure.

How do you tell a specific action and actually do it??

Example: You know that your children are fighting in the car, for example, and every time you drive the car, you find screaming and fighting among them. So that this situation does not happen again, tell them before they get in the car that if they cause chaos and noise, you will get out of the car and wait until they stop the chaos so that you can return to them.

And really, seriously, if they start quarreling, do what you said and without threatening, meaning without saying, “I will stop if you don’t calm down,” and then get angry. No, on the contrary, stop the car directly, get out, and stand next to it without saying a word.
Imagine the children’s reaction because they will actually trust you more because you did what you said with all respect and without nervousness.

Of course, be bold and implement it, as experience is the best guide