Hello to all dear visitors to my child’s world, many mothers suffer from the nervousness of their children, and we find one of them complaining about her son’s stubbornness, nervousness, and excessive crying. What is strange is that this nervousness varies to include infants and two-year-olds, and becomes more severe when it coincides with stubbornness, so treatment of nervousness is possible. It starts from the age of months, and here the type of treatment varies according to his age. Therefore, you must first know and discover the reason for this nervousness and crying, because it is possible that the child is hungry or something is hurting him, so for every age there is a treatment for nervousness.

What are the manifestations? what are the reasons? How do we act to solve the issue? All these details and many tips that will be very useful to you are the focus of our article. So follow the article until the end.

Neurological forms in children:

1. Crying and screaming:

When you instruct a child, from the age of two years until childhood, on how to drink a cup of water or juice so that it does not spill, you find that he refuses to listen and insists on his position, and the liquid spills, and the mother revolts and screams as well, and her nervousness increases

2. Pouring foods:

When alerted to correct the mistake, sometimes a nervous child comes to the point of spilling liquids or food on the floor, and the mother becomes very angry, as there is no time to clean the floor or carpet, for example, after the stress of a long day.

3. Hitting the head against the wall:

4. Harming others:

5. Use of obscene words:

7. Vandalism and breaking:

Causes of a child's nervousness:

1. The child’s feeling of inferiority:

Which prompts him to try to draw attention to himself with aggressive behavior. This feeling of inferiority may be the result of his physical disability or repeated failure in school, due to the difficulty of the curriculum and his inability to adapt to it, or his family, teachers, and friends describing him as stupid or lazy.

2. Not allowing the child to express himself:

3. Parents’ neglect of the child’s nervous behavior:

4. Imitating parents:

5. Watching TV without supervision:

How to deal with a child's nervous:

1. Treat the child with kindness and respect:

2. Providing a safe environment:

Parents must work to understand the child’s needs, take care of his affairs, and be moderate in pampering him, which will bring him a sense of well-being, happiness, and a sense of the presence of a controlling authority that limits his transgressions, which are essential matters in education.

4. Monitor what the child sees:

Monitoring what children watch on television and on the Internet has become necessary to avoid watching violence or anything inappropriate for their young age. Also, observing their peers and keeping them away from nervous children so that they do not imitate them.

5. Reducing marital disputes in front of children:

Parents must ensure that their disagreements are kept out of the children’s earshot and sight. We must take into account that the child imitates the home environment, so solving problems in a calm voice and a sophisticated manner makes the child accustomed to having a safe and comfortable environment in the home that is not repellent.

6. Tolerance and self-expression:

7. Bonus:

Whenever your child behaves well, give him a simple reward, or a piece of candy, or pat him on the shoulder affectionately, so that he gets used to disciplined behavior little by little, and do not go overboard in giving him more money than he needs, so that he does not get used to extravagance and selfishness.

8. Fun and play:

Radical solutions to treat nervousness in children:

Positive attention:

Parents always pay attention to their child’s bad behavior, but paying attention at the time of good behavior is the most important of all, as it makes the child feel important and makes him do good behavior so that he becomes the focus of everyone’s attention, but parents’ comments on bad behavior make the child repeat it until he always gets this attention from them. . Giving your child 15 minutes of positive attention is one of the simplest and most effective ways to reduce behavior problems.

Ignoring certain behaviors:

When a child feels that he is being watched by the parents' camera, he becomes more tense and nervous, so you must leave some freedom in your children's actions so that there is room to correct their mistakes on their own and rely on themselves. Therefore, ignoring some small behaviors that are not good in some situations is better for the space of interaction between you and your child.

Allow natural results to occur:

There are some things a child wants that are not actually dangerous to him, so let him do them. Sometimes, it makes more sense to allow natural consequences rather than trying to convince the child to make a better choice. For example, if your child insists that he doesn't need to take a break from play to eat lunch, allow him to skip lunch. The corollary is that he will probably be hungry later and have to wait until dinner. Eventually, he'll learn to eat lunch on time.

Clear commands:

Many times the problem occurs as a result of the child not completing a specific task or not carrying out a specific command. This is the result of his lack of understanding of it and the lack of clarity of the complex commands for him. So be frank and specific and focus on the most important, then what is important. Do not ask your child to carry out a series of tasks, as he will inevitably miss one or all of them. Because he feels helpless in carrying out all of this, it is easier for him to refuse. So ask your child to repeat back to you what he heard to make sure he fully understands.

Family warmth and embraces:

Stable homes affect the regulation and development of their children’s emotions well, unlike unstable homes in which children are exposed to cruelty and witnessing violence, as this clearly happens in countries that suffer from wars, destruction, and instability. With all of this, there are individual differences between each child and another, but Caring for family warmth teaches the child how to deal with situations that are not good for him and that affect him, and he learns to manage his anger as a result of his stability and constant calm. Pay attention to making hugs part of your child's daily routine throughout the day and at all times.

Definition of feelings:

In short, every father and mother must know that they must let the child feel all feelings, including anger and distress, so that he learns and knows how to act upon every feeling. Also, we must never stop those feelings, no matter what they are, but rather we must only define and determine his feelings and show sympathy for him. “I feel.” “If I were in your place, I would feel this feeling,” and then give him confidence, “I trust you that you will find the right solution.” This is called defining feelings, and it is a tool of positive education.

Self-control corner:

It is good to teach your child how to manage his anger and how to deal with his nervousness by allocating a corner in the house or in your child’s room and calling it the self-control corner, and placing everything that can be used to invite him to relax and return to calm, and that is of his choice. For example, your child loves drawing or music. We put in this corner what he uses, such as colors, papers, or recordings of calm music. The child can also choose stories and magazines or to play a game in which he releases his energy, such as boxing. This is determined by the child himself, and when he feels angry, he immediately goes to this corner, or the parents ask him to go to it. Then, after he calms down, you can talk to him about what happened and take the appropriate action with him according to what was determined.

Breathing exercises:

It is important to mention to your child that the thinking and decision-making centers in the brain stop working during anger and nervousness, so an angry person must breathe deeply by taking a deep inhale, then holding this inhale and counting to the number 5, and then exhaling this breath for three counts. This makes the brain return to its activity. It works well and the person returns to thinking well, making decisions, and not regretting actions that occur unintentionally while he is angry.

Constant encouragement for what he does:

Continuous, inappropriate praise of the child with words such as: You are brave, You are a hero, You are beautiful, You are wonderful, adopts an arrogant child who always sees himself as the center of the universe, no matter how simple or many he does. His nervousness towards anyone who neglects himself or treats him like the rest of his peers increases, so actions must be praised. What he does and the achievements he has made without exaggerating it, such as saying to him: This is the behavior of the brave or this is the work of heroes. He will not have an independent personality through sweet talk or falsehood, but it must be the result of his actions and achievements.

reward:

Reward systems can be a great way to help kids stay on track, so you can set some target behaviors, such as staying at the table during a meal.