The three-year-old child: his abilities and the most important tips and guidance for dealing with him at this important stage

 Hello to all dear visitors to my child’s world, at the age of three years, the child begins to experience the world around him, his abilities and the limits of his control, the laws of the world, the abilities of others and the limits of their control, and studies the interaction of all of this together through daily experiences and situations to ultimately form his own perception of the way to deal with the world and others. And he creates his own way to get what he wants in the best way he tried and gave him a successful result.

During this period, very rapid developments occur in his thinking that astonish parents, especially if he is their first child, so we must understand him well and we must be good at dealing with these changes and developments.

The most important changes and developments that occur to a 3-year-old child:

1. Independence:

Your child gradually begins to depend on himself and wants to do everything of his own. He also wants to imitate you and enjoy it. He wants to wash the dish like you, he wants to write like you, he wants to draw like you, and he is determined to do that. Here is your role to give him space and make room for him with love, because this is not stubbornness on his part. He is just discovering, growing and developing.

2. Curiosity and questions:

Why ?? A question that will stick with you all the time, and the more you answer a question, the more you will be asked. Do not worry, do not get bored, and do not prevent it, because in this way you will stop the flow of knowledge and the process of exploration. What you should do is answer his questions as much as possible, and you can take advantage of the opportunity and provide him with some books that contain many pictures and a lot of information in order to develop his brain skills.

3. Vast imagination:

Be careful not to associate him with lying and make him understand that you are lying to him. Quite the opposite. Connect this imagination to reality and feed it with a lot of real information. Imagination is the first method of creativity for your child.

4. He is afraid of many irrational things:

This is very normal, so accept it and it will decrease over time. This is due to the wide imagination that a child of his age has, and choosing when watching the cartoon that is appropriate and not scary for him.

5. Insistence and stubbornness:

Insistence and stubbornness are among the characteristics of a 3-year-old child, and it begins little by little to become less and less over time. Do not always refuse a lot because this complicates matters. Follow the means of persuasion or be smart and keep him busy with something else that will make him forget what he was stubborn about.

A 3-year-old child, what should he learn??

It is very necessary, at this particular age, for the child to learn about: limits, laws, firmness, and consequences.

The child must know his limits, what is allowed and what is prohibited.

Establishing fixed laws regarding what is permitted and prohibited.

Establish consequences for non-compliance.

And implement this firmly and consistently, and not respond to any pressure exerted by the child to break those limits and rules because that means that he uses the same actions many times to repeatedly break the rules and achieve his desires.

Because the world is not a place for implementing desires without calculation, it is our duty to teach the child this firmly, and bear the burden of his hardship. Because the child will try to pressure us in every way to win this battle in his favor, so he will be creative in breaking the rules and provoking us emotionally to test the extent of our seriousness and commitment to implementing those rules or not.

We take the example of a mother who takes her daughter with her when she goes to the supermarket to do household chores. The mother must agree with the child before going to the supermarket on only one type of candy that the child chooses to get, and if she chooses other things, she must maintain her position and remind her of the agreement and not She obeys her crying and emotional movements, then picks her up and leaves the place, reminding her of the agreement and the type of candy she chose.

This method may not work the first, second, or even fifth time. In fact, the girl’s stubbornness and nervous behavior may increase, and this is normal. All the mother has to do is adhere to the same behavior every time, and expect the child not to respond so as not to become nervous or confused. She knows that this happens to all children and all parents, so she must not give in to embarrassment and continue to adhere to the rule no matter what her child does.

Try the following with your 3-year-old child:

Conclude a prior agreement before going to the supermarket.

-If the child is committed, the mother will reward her, praise her, praise her behavior, and show her joy in her.

- If you do not comply, we will leave the place with a reminder of the prior agreement.

- Providing healthy alternatives to sweets, and not giving them sweets at home. We only give them sweets when we go out shopping or as rewards.

- Make a list of the sweets you want to buy, and choose one type at a time.

Very important tips when dealing with a 3-year-old child:

Beware of mocking his words and making him feel that he is not important. You must pay attention to him and listen to him carefully with all interest and attention.

Do not try to put him in a box and control his movements more than necessary. Encourage him to play freely without any rules. It is very important to make your child very energetic, happy and running.

Teach him the skill of quarreling and how he should play with his friends and siblings, and also participate in simple things at home because he is an important individual in it. By sharing, he learns the importance of the group.

Whenever his behavior is good, reward him and do not deprive him of the pleasure of achieving, even in simple things. .

The age of three years is the most appropriate stage in which we teach the child the rules such as eating etiquette, visiting etiquette, respect etiquette, and self-reliance in cleanliness.